If and only If :)

Assalamualaikum...

here i am, again, writing on this blog. too seldom i guess i decided to share anything, as i purposely did it. oh i mean i did intend to ignore this blog. :P

It is titled as shown above 'cause i think we need to know 'bout the things that have made people to dislike us, or by using Facebook's word, UNLIKE.

My late mom used to say, in this life, there are two types of people. One of them are those who like us, and the rest are those who might dislike us. why do they like? and why do the rest dislike?

To me, people like us because they respect us, they sincerely do, they love our characteristics, they love the way we behave ourselves, the way we treat them, they love what we have, they wanna be like us, and many more that i couldn't list (you list it on your own after this).

however, like i said, though a lot of people might like us, there's a lot of people would unlike us, too. why why? at first i couldn't find, couldn't know, and couldn't discover why why and why people might dislike us.

Ohh, do reflect ourselves now. recall, review, and rewind what had happened between us and "them" before. were we too cruel towards them or were they? or else, were we too good to them or were they? try to open our mind for a while. sometimes, people dislike us because of our bad deeds, and for certain times, people might dislike us because of our good deeds.

Our bad deeds, had made them feel that we're too annoying in front of their eyes, maybe. i think i felt this before towards some of my friends. and i think my friends used to feel the same thing towards me. well, human beings are not perfect EXCEPT Rasulullah SAW. hence, if we know they used to feel so, why not, we try to make a move in order to turn good or better. improve ourselves, so that the would try to accept us and forgive us. and forgive each other, too.

Our good deeds, sometimes would affect ourselves to be hated maybe. :( what i mean here is not such good deeds that we're supposed to do such as ibadah. what i really mean here is the way we try to approach people to be closer to us, the way we love people that surrounds us, the way we improve ourselves. actually THEY saw what we do and they could  follow for sure. but they chose to hate. it's not a good solution. are you thinking of what i'm thinking? i think there's Jealousy problem here. errr. guys, be matured, we can't simply hate people only because of they're loved, they're liked, they're remembered and they're appreciated by others. everyone deserves it as long as it doesn't invite "arrogance". people who dislike you are actually the ones who wanna be like you. THEY LIKE YOU actually. should thank them.

and remember, people who hate you or dislike you, they actually LIKE you, but they hide it, they won't tell, and a bit sure, they would make you as their inspiration without your knowing, IF AND ONLY IF you tend to inspire them following your good deeds and best attitudes. Husnu Zhon, insyaAllah :)

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